Dear Simone Says,

Basically, this happened a while ago, but my best friend called her crush and his friends, who were also my crush.  She didn’t know, and she was OBSESSED with, and told our entire friend group’s secrets to at 4 am. 

It turns out, though, that she told them fake rumors so they would back off from her. All the fake rumors spread, and everything had different stories, and so we iced her out of our friend group for three weeks. 

Then it turns out the guys were lying, and she never spilled any secrets except about these two girls who are terrible people, but it’s ok cuz these girls are really bad. And now she’s still my best friend. It’s actually more complicated cuz this girls edit leaked of the guy, and there was a group chat to cancel her. 

Anyways, byyyeeee.

Dear Byyyeee,

Friendgroup situations like this get messy fast, especially when rumors, crushes, and late-night phone calls are involved. What really stands out here is how quickly assumptions were made before all the facts were clear. 

I get why everyone reacted the way they did. When you think someone betrayed your trust, it hurts, but cutting someone off for weeks without knowing the full truth can do just as much damage. It sounds like a lot of the chaos came from miscommunication, exaggeration, and people repeating things without checking if they were real. 

Going forward, the best thing you can do is focus on honest communication and boundaries. If she’s truly your best friend and didn’t actually betray you, it’s okay to move on, but it’s also okay to talk openly about how that situation made you feel, so it doesn’t happen again. 

Drama grows when people talk about each other instead of to each other, so keeping things direct and calm will save you a lot of stress in the long run.

Best,

Simone Says